Friday, May 31, 2013

A Fighting Society

No, I can't hit, and I'll tell you why. I don't want to hurt anyone. I think I've done that enough in my life to be exempt from any forms of physical violence. I don't care how much I'm provoked, or how hard I'm beaten down. I will not react to violence with violence. I will hold you with my eyes and take every blow without a flinch of whimper.
Yes, maybe that does make me weak. However, I blatantly refuse to be pushed into something so brutal simply by the threat of social disgrace. I was not part of the society in which physical, emotional, sexual, and mental abuse are used to 'toughen up' young boys in order to prepare them for the world. I was not a part of the society that shuns all forms of mercy and harmony for the sake of pure animistic dominance. I regret to watch the fear in their eyes lowly diminish to angry submission into a culture that crushes the weak of mind and body. Each time they are struck, Fate whispers in their ear "I'm coming for you. Dont fall."
So no, I will not fight back. I will not encourage the demise of so many helpless youths. But please, by all means. Go ahead and destroy your brothers and sons. I'll be here to catch them when they fall. But if you dare to take one threatening step towards them after they've fallen so vulnerably to the depths.... if you try to kick them while they're down and insure they will never be okay again... if you create them in the image of yourselves...then maybe I will fight you. Life is a just enough cause to fight for.

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Fading

I wake up every morning depressed.

It's always the same. There's the fading moments in between the remnants of the last fragments of my dreams and the contrast-less bitter reality I awake to. Then comes my one true indication that my sleep is over; my alarm. I snatch up my phone, slide the 'off' switch, check the messages. Place it on the bedside table. Close my eyes and sigh.

Then I cross my arms across my chest and pretend that someone- anyone -is there with me. I focus in on the sound of their breath. The resonating vibrations of their voice seeping through their sleep. The feel of their body against mine. They are real. They are real.

This is real.

I open my eyes. It's gone. I'm alone again. I'm depressed. I'm fading.

I long to hear the words I've uttered for so long... the commitment I've made repeated to the cracks in my soul..

"I'd surely die a thousand deaths before allowing the victory of your fading demise."

I sit up and let my face interlacedly grate into my fingers and palms. When I look up, everything will be gone.

now.

I'm still here, and so is the world. I do not possess the power to convince myself otherwise so easily. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe then I'll fade away.

The world will hold me one more day.



Friday, May 24, 2013

The Shirt That Changed The World

"You have the chance to change the world every single day."

I'm not going to trash that statement. For once, I actually agree with an overused inspiring quote. Because.. well.. it's true. For me, anyways. Take a look at the Butterfly Effect. Yes, it's an actual scientific theory. If a tiny butterfly flaps its wings at the precise right moment in Brazil, the microscopic changes in the trajectory of the atmosphere could potentially start a tornado in Texas. I like to parallel this to people.

If you compliment one random person, lets call him Bob, he might feel important and worthy of life. His suicidal tendencies will fade over time, leaving a well-adjusted young man with the rest of his life ahead of him. Lets say Bob was kind and sensitive. Maybe he was suicidal because he had a tough life and no one to show him love in ways he understood. Well now that he's okay, his whole life will change. He might compliment people as they walk by in hopes of saving just one more person. He might start a charity or foundation to help or sponsor people who are sad or lonely. He might realize his estranged father really did love him and just didn't know how to show it. Or he might take his new outlook on life for granted and simply carry on living. No matter what Bob does with his life, you've created several hundred thousand should-have-beens that will never be. People will never meet, events will never unfold, problems will never be solved, questions will never be asked. You have essentially just changed the world.
For the sake of an extended example, lets say Bob was ambitious and decide he did in fact want to start his charity. He successfully reached out to youths in troubled homes from mid-sized cities all over his state. Forgetting technicalities like "where did he come across the money to fund something that huge?" for a moment, we can look at the effects of his little constructive workshop.
Toni and Suzy both attended his school-based conference. They were both dramatically impacted by his inspiring story and the statistics he presented. Toni left the gang he had been a part of for three years and dedicated his life to family and sports. Suzy started a mentoring outreach program in her neighborhood for younger kids. Toni's gang shot him for deserting his "family". Suzy became the symbol of hope for the younger generations in her and the surrounding neighborhoods. In both cases, Bob is now responsible for the changes he caused, and you are now responsible for what he caused.
Now let's look at the contrast. Maybe Bob wasn't such a great guy. Maybe there was something wrong with the way he thought about things. Maybe he could sense the immense and imminent danger unfolding within him. Maybe he was on the verge of cracking and falling into sociopathic natures. So when he was walking down the street toward you, that look on his face wasn't sadness or despair. It was a deep-set internal battle contemplating his power, soul, and fate. When you told him his shirt was cool, he saw that as a sign of his dominance over the general public as a whole. The small remaining good in him was extinguished leaving nothing but a monster with a smiling mask.
It's not your fault that Bob turned evil.. but you did cause it. No one can blame you, but you are responsible. You are the singular root of everything he might do and whatever he may become from that exact instance forwards.You have just changed history by complimenting a shirt.

Every single day we do have the chance to change the world, for better or worse. The hard part is deciding if and when we should. Is it worth it?

Friday, May 17, 2013

The Noble Quest

Sooo I wrote you guys a story. Just kidding, I wrote it cuz that's what I do when I feel like shit. But I thought it turned out pretty cool... so here it is. Enjoy:



There was once a table in a faraway land every noble man could sit at.

Once a year they served the best foods and wines of all the lands.

Once a year the pleaders begged for what they held most dear.

The noble in attendance were required to join one quest to help one pleader.

There was one man who furnished the table; the over-seer. The over-seer was cursed to a life of judging the noble. He was once a noble himself, and remembered wishing all the fame and fortune would pass so he could live his life in solitude without the responsibility of his title.

He broke the curse long ago, but remained in responsibility to find the noblest cause and the wise man whom would choose it to take his place.

He promised all the fortunes of those quests that were accomplished to the nobles who took on the quests.

Every year, men from across the lands gathered at the table to choose the most noble and bountiful quest they could find; but the noblest quests were never chosen.

On the last year the over-seer would walk the lands, there were five noble quests.

The first was for saving a village, the reward was the people themselves as subjects to whichever ruler would accept.

The second was for forging an army against invaders, the reward was the enemy they defeated.

The third was for finding a lost sacred mine, the reward was the treasures inside.

The fourth was for saving a man’s wife, the reward was the wife to keep.

The fifth was for saving a young boy from his grief, the reward was his future and all it held.

The wisest of the nobles each chose one of the noble quests for themselves. Each said “surely this is the noblest of all causes I could choose” before swearing their allegiance.

The over-seer watched with a grave face. He must judge which one would be his successor. Who had saved the greatest cause? Whose cause would last?

The over-seer knew kingdoms could fall.

The over-seer knew enemies could retaliate.

The over-seer knew sacred grounds could not be ravaged.

The over-seer knew wives could be unfaithful.

The over-seer knew young men could die.

The five wise men bowed their heads in respect. Each believed their cause was best, and the others were foolish.

Each wanted to be the over-seer.

None knew the price.

The over-seer studied the men for long, and contemplated each quest for the present and future.

He came to a decision.

When the boy had been saved from grief, the fifth noble man in charge of his quest would be over-seer. The boy would be raised to take the noble man’s place.

The noble men received the decision with grace. Each set out on his quest.

The first saved the village from despair and earned the hearts of the people. He became their faithful ruler.

The second forged the strongest army he could with the resources at hand. He defeated the enemy.

The third led a search for, and discovered, the lost sacred mine. He was named a hero and bestowed all the riches within.

The fourth saved the man’s wife. He was given her to keep in all her grace and beauty.

The fifth saved the boy from grief, and brought him hope of joy. He became the over-seer and adopted father of the boy as he grew.

The former over-seer was Lifted. He watched with sadness as the first four accomplished quests unfolded as time went on. He placed all hope in the fifth.

The first noble gained confidence in his people and lands. His wealth grew, and so did his pride. He let his guards and watchmen grow lazy and fat.

The second gained confidence in the remainder of his soldiers. He recruited none, but focused on training those he had. He ignored the poverty of the village he was protecting and often led his men through long treks through the wilderness.

The third gained confidence in the credit of his name. he stared at the entrance to the sacred mines and dreamed of the riches below. He ventured in at night to glimpse its glory.

The fourth gained confidence in his new wife. He allowed the man to remain near his love as a servant to them both. He left on errands frequently and for long stretches of time.

The fifth gained confidence in his adopted son and his own wisdom.  He assumed all traces of the grief were gone, and spent long hours studying the glory of the stars. He left his son to find his own way and focused solely on making good judgments.

The Lifted over-seer wept in amazement as he watched his darkest fears come true.

The first had forgotten about the enemies surrounding his lands. His days of leisure had made him fat and unmotivated- his men mirrored his likeness. His small kingdom was invaded, and fell. He was beheaded by the ruler of his enemies.

The second had forgotten enemies are more than just armies. His long treks through the wilderness had left the village unprotected. His defeated enemies invaded and burned the village while they were away. He and his men were slaughtered upon their return.

The third had forgotten the price of entering sacred grounds. He walked through the labyrinth every night while the others slept. He was seen by an elder walking alone one sleepless night. They sentenced him to death by starvation, from being locked inside the mines for all eternity.

The fourth had forgotten the bond of love a man shared with his wife. He often left the two alone in his home as he traveled throughout the lands. He came home earlier than expected to find them acting on the intimacy they shared in their pledge of marriage. In his rage he killed the man who had given him his wife.

The fifth had forgotten the endurance of grief. While he was speaking with the stars and those Lifted long ago, his son’s grief returned in a more mature form for the aging boy:  Anger. His son, ignored by his vacant father, fed his Anger with hatred of those who loved. He killed his father and became the merciless ruler of all wise.

The Lifted over-seer was bewildered. He watched as the lands became dull and the lives of all turned to gloom. He knew he had chosen the wrong successor in his haste. Though still foolish, the fourth was the only survivor of his wise and noble quest. 

The Loss Of My Fading Demise

I can control my anger now. It's almost impossible for just anyone to make me angry. But... now I hardly feel anything. It's like someone stole all my emotions and replaced them with emptiness and sadness. At least before I was filled up with Bad... now I'm just... I dunno... here. I'm just here. Alive. I'm alive. Thats it. I don't have any purpose or mission or journey to accomplish. I'm in between my fading demise and the life ahead of me. I thought people are supposed to be happy after they get better? or maybe I'm not better. Maybe I'm worse and I dont even know it.
I can't react properly still. Talk about suicide and I'll calmly tell you how I'd do it if i wanted to, maybe even throw in a few jokes for entertainment. Talk about Homicide and I'll look at you with unchanging eyes as you relieve every last moment of that horrible experience you encountered. I cant be phased by the horrible or gory. I wont be shaken by the unspeakable.
Maybe the war is over... maybe one side did win. Maybe the initial result is the loss of feeling. what comes next? whats gong to happen to me?
Oh, God... if you're out there...save me. or, anyone. please. I dont know what to do. I've tried everything. I've lost hope. so please... if anyone can help me... I'll be waiting. theres nothing else left for me to do.

Friday, May 10, 2013

Zarko

One year ago today, I was caught for distributing prescription drugs and carrying weapons on school campus. I didn't really think about that day's significance. If I had stopped for just one moment to think about anyone besides myself, I never would have stuffed any of it in my back pack. I wouldn't have given it way.

Why?

May 10, 2008 was my little brother's birthday. He was turning four... I was too caught up in pills and alcohol to notice. I cant believe I forgot his birthday.

It's been a year, and I've really turned my life around. Sure I slip up sometimes, everyone does, but for the most part I'm clean and sober. I'm slowly but surely gaining his trust back. It's obviously not easy after four years of abuse, but I do have high hopes that one day he'll feel completely safe with me. I taught him that the word isn't safe; it's my responsibility to teach him to trust again. He's a good kid. He deserves to have someone protecting him.

I love you, Zarko. Happy birthday Buddy! I cant believe you're already five! :)